Why I Want to Send my Daughter to an All-Girls’ School

The History of ArtOur family will be making some changes in the not so distant future.  All good things. And no, I’m not pregnant.  Just some great things on the horizon, that I can’t talk about just yet.  That said, we’ve been thinking a lot about where these changes will lead us. We had been talking a lot about moving south, Nashville to be exact, or moving back home to New York.  That is not longer in our plan, for now, so we’re sticking around New England.

But where?  Where do we want to live? What state? What town? What neighborhood? Where will Avery go to school?

That last question is the most important.

I went to public school my whole life, as did Dave. Private school was never something I considered, I didn’t understand the point of spending so much (SO MUCH) money on K-12 when public schools were just as good (Better, in my biased opinion) Then I had a child. A daughter. In a time where public schools are having serious budget issues, cutting sports and the arts, packing classrooms with more kids than there are desks, and all that Common Core standardized test stuff and teacher burn-out….

And it made me think.

What do I want Avery’s education to look like? What kind of school do I want her to go to?  What kind of community?  What would be best for her?

It may seem like we have  plenty of time, and don’t need to worry about this yet. But she’s 3 and a half. She starts preschool next week, ad this time next year, we’ll really need to have these decisions made.

I started reading, and researching, and looking at schools. I looked at school “grades” but then thought about how, really, what do those numbers mean anyway?  They don’t tell you how much the teachers care about the kids, or how many issues they have with bullying, or what level of importance they put on the arts… So I started reading and researching some more.

Like I said, I never thought I’d want to send my child to private school. And I DEFINITELY never thought I’d want to send my daughter to an all-girls school. But, that’s exactly what I hope to do.

Why?  Why did my feelings change so drastically?

Why I want to send my daughter to an All-Girls’ School:

  • I fell in love with a school… After attending a few events at one local girls school, I fell in love. The girls I met were wonderful. The programs offered were amazing. The community felt like home. I found a school, that opened my eyes to the possibility of sending Avery to a girls’ school.
  • Boy and Girls learn differently… At a girls’ school, the teachers know and understand that, and they are able to cater to the way girls learn.
  • STEM & STEAM & in-between… I don’t know for certain what Avery’s passions will be, but at a girls school, her dreams and aspirations wont be discouraged, or limited. Science, Technology, Engineering, Art, and Math, she will have opportunities to learn and develop in all of those subjects.

Research shows that girls’ school graduates are six times more likely to consider majoring in math, science, and technology and three times more likely to consider engineering careers compared to girls who attend coed schools.

  • Girls Rule the world… Avery will see women in leadership roles. Class president, student council president, every leadership role will be filled by a girl. That’s HUGE. She’ll wont grow up thinking “Only men can be leaders” because strong female leadership is all she will know! She will be surrounded by peer role models.
  • BeYOUtiful… Girls at girls’ schools feel more comfortable sharing their ideas, and expressing themselves. They don’t have to think about conforming to stereotypes. They don’t have to worry about what the boys will think. They can confidently ask questions, speak their minds, and share ideas.

All girls settings seem to provide girls a certain comfort level that helps them develop greater self-confidence and broader interests, especially as they approach adolescence. -Dr. Rosemary C. Salomone

  • R-E-S-P-E-C-T… According to the National Coalition of Girls’ Schools,  Girls’ school students report giving and receiving respect at higher rates then do their female peers at coed schools. Nearly 87% feel their opinions are respected at their school compared to 82.9% of girls at coed independent schools and 58.1% of girls at coed public schools.
  •  Fair & Balanced… Ok, not everything in life is fair, but at a girl’s school students don’t have to worry about unfair dress codes and rules, or gender-biased opportunities.
  • Common Core isn’t a “thing” in private school… While it may not be the most terrible thing in the world (Really, I’m not anti-standardized testing–In fact, I LOVED those tests when I was in school) I want Avery to go to a school where the teachers are free to teach their students in a way that best suits them.
  • Girls go to college to get more knowledge… The NCGS says that almost 100% of girls’ school grads go on to college.

Girls’ school grads are more than twice as likely to go on to earn a doctoral degree. -Goodman Research Group

  • I used to attend an all-girls’ summer camp, growing up. It was called GirlSummer and it was held at Emma Willard School. A Boarding school for girls in Troy, NY.  (If you’ve seen Scent Of A Woman or The Emperor’s Club, you’ve seen the amazing campus.)   Those summer weeks were some of my most memorable times. I loved feeling comfortable to try new things (like tennis, gymnastics, volleyball, and modern dance) and express myself through art, music and theater. It was comfortable and nurturing, and felt like an amazing sisterhood. I’ve always said, I plan to send Avery there every summer, if we can. I had such a small taste of what girls’ school is like, but it left a lasting mark on my heart.
  • I think it will be a great experience for her. I think it will be a good environment for her. I think it will be awesome for her.

So, that’s why I want to send my daughter to a girls’ school.  It just feels like the right thing for our family. I’m not against public school, and of course, this whole plan depends on us having the funds to support it, but it’s what we’re working toward.

When girls go to single-sex schools, they stop being the audience and become the players. -Maya and David Sadker


I just hope we can make it happen!

I’d be interested to hear your thoughts on this?  What type of school environment do you want for your child? Public? Private?  Or maybe Homeschool?



  1. Suzy says:

    either public or private. I would never ever ever homeschool. Too sheltered. Avery seems to be more of the public school type (a good public school, of course) and you could save a heck of a bunch of money not doing private that can be used for higher education later on. (along with a few extra Disney trips along the way) LOL!! :)

  2. Jeremy Thompson says:

    I was thinking about where I would enroll my twins for the next school year when my wife suggested for me to try to look into some Catholic all-girls school which lead me here reading about what’s the advantage of it. The part where you mentioned that they can be able to find beauty and confidence in themselves without thinking about what guys would think about their appearance is something that I am in an agreement with. It would be beneficial for them grow up learning about the power of girls and what they can do without ever comparing themselves with the men. I’ll do my best to look around for a great all-girls Catholic school for them to enroll in. Thanks!

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