I’ve started really working out my Birth Plan. What I want, what I don’t want, what I’m terrified of, when it comes to the actual labor process. For the most part I’m pretty “go with the flow” I have ideas of what I want, and there are a few things I refuse to do, but for the most part, it’s just a “wait and see what happens” kind of thing.
I know that I want to try for as natural a child-birth as possible, while in a hospital setting. While the idea of a home birth, or water birth or birth in the middle of the forest sounds lovely, it just is not my cup-o-tea. I prefer to be surrounded by medical professionals who will be able to intervene should, god forbid, something go wrong. Being surrounded by woodland creatures would be nice too, but I’m not sure how much medical training raccoons and chipmunks are getting these days.
I know for sure that I do not want to be induced, I don’t want Pitocin anywhere near me. I want to go into labor naturally, when my body is ready, and I’d like to go through labor naturally, not sped up because the doctor has other places to be. (Fortunately, my OB says they would never induce labor unless the mom was more than 2 weeks late, and it was medically necessary)
My hope is that I can make it trough labor without an epidural. However, I am most definitely leaving that option open because while I THINK I have an incredible pain tolerance, this may be a “little” different. I have read articles that American women tend scream for an epidural, while women in other countries are less likely to. I Think it has a lot to do with media (film and television) as well as friends and family instilling fear in our hearts and minds that labor will feel a bit like being torn apart by The Kracken. (Not that I doubt it is painful, but I have found that women who have kids already like to scare pregnant women with all sorts of horror stories. I’m still not sure why.)
I also hope not to need a C-Section. Though I can’t imagine anyone WANTING one. If I NEED one I’ll definitely go along with that. (Anything for Avery!) I am “concerned” about the number of cesarean births in the US (32% of births in the US are by Cesarean) That percentage may not seem high, since it’s less than half, but when I look at the last 5 friends who have given birth, ALL were by C-section. Of course they had reasons for it, and I most definitely do not judge them at all. Some had medical reasons or medical emergencies, making a c-section absolutely necessary. Another was a second child (the first-born via cesarean which made it riskier to try a vaginal birth with the second) The others were after induction, having been in labor for long periods of time. (My doctor informed me that the majority of c-sections happen after induction, which can put the baby into fetal distress and make a c-section necessary.)
I also know of a couple of women who have felt “pressured” into a c-section, or an induction that ended in c-section. Some women aren’t aware that there may be other options and just assume that the doctor wouldn’t do it if it weren’t 100% needed.
I prefer not to go the c-section route if at all possible. Mainly because the concept of surgery terrifies me more than the potential pain of labor. Also, because Dave will have to go back to work pretty much immediately after Avery is born, meaning I’ll be recovering from major surgery and taking care of a newborn, alone. That is virtually impossible.
This post is getting incredibly long, but there is one other thing I want to address.
Apparently there is a stigma surrounding C-section births. I never knew this before, it honestly never occurred to me, but, there are women who think c-sections aren’t “real” births. As if they, having had a “natural” birth are “better” and more of a “mom” than those who had c-sections. This just blows my mind!! I can’t fathom being such a “Judgey McJudgerson” It angers me that there are women out there who think this way. Where does that put MY mother, who adopted me. She didn’t carry me for 9 months, nor did she expel me from her womb in any way. Does that make her “less” of a mother? I don’t think so! I know some women feel like they were cheated out of having a natural child-birth, even causing feelings of depression about their birthing story. Of course, I haven’t experienced what they have, but I can’t imagine myself feeling that way.
Perhaps it is because I was adopted, but to me being a MOTHER has absolutely nothing to do with HOW the baby got to you. While I hope my labor goes according to “plan” I’ll be perfectly happy with however Avery arrives as long as she’s healthy and happy and we all feel respected.