Feeling Like a Celebrity

There is nothing like the Father/Daughter relationship. Nothing. At.All.

Last weekend I went to visit my 87 year old Grandma (We call her ‘Hootie’  because of her owl collection, not because she was the lead singer of a 90’s band)  She’s currently residing in the nursing home where my father works.  I confess that I do not visit her as much as I should, and I am making a point to get over there more often, but that is a whole other blog post.  This one is more about my dad.

When I arrived I checked in at the desk and told them that I was “Walter’s daughter”  they reacted as if I’d said I was The Queen, or Lady Gaga or some other super celeb.   “Ohhhhh!!!!  Sarah!!!!  We’ve heard so much about you!!!!  Room 21, second to last room on the left, he’s in there with your grandmother!!!!”

While I was in my Grandma’s room my dad’s coworkers kept streaming in to  meet “Walter’s daughter” I was even asked if I wouldn’t mind meeting the mother of one of the other nurses since she’d “heard so much about me” and upon meeting her, I learned that she had seen all my wedding photos and went on to compliment my hair, dress, venue etc. It was as if she was telling me “Oh I saw the pictures of your wedding in People magazine, and saw your interview on Good Morning America!” Like I said, I felt like a celebrity.

But the point wasn’t that I was getting all this attention. The point was that I’m a month away from being 30 years old, Ive made more than my fair share of mistakes in my life, I’m far from perfect, but my dad talks about me all the time to his co-workers, and he is clearly proud of me.

He loves me even though I have a tattoo.

I don’t think a lot of people realize how much of an impact their words can have. Especially their words to others.  A father can tell his child “I love you, I’m proud of you” every day, and of course that means something. But when he tells strangers, or coworkers “I love my daughter, I’m proud of her” THAT means even more.  (This goes for moms too, but moms tend to be more likely to do this anyway.)

My dad and I argue (that happens when you put two people together who are NEVER wrong. EVER.) He gets mad at me if I don’t check my tire pressure, or the fluids in my car before every. single. trip.  But he’s proud of me. He loves me. Unconditionally. As long as I get my oil changed every 3,000 miles.

I feel blessed to have a father who is so openly proud of me, even though I’m not a doctor or lawyer or paleontologist or railroad tycoon or oil baron.  A father who talks about me, at age 30, with love. A dad who brags about me to his coworkers.

I have met people in my life who have fathers who never do this.  Their dads talk about what “screw ups” their children are. How they have “wasted talent” or “not lived up to their potential”  And maybe my dad thinks I could have done “more” or “been more”  I’m sure he thinks I have made mistakes (I definitely have!) but you’d never hear him say it to his coworkers or to strangers in line at Stop & Shop.

I hope that Avery gets to experience this with her dad (I’m pretty sure she will, because Dave and my father have a lot in common in this regard) I hope at age 30 she feels like a celebrity because of the way her daddy describes her to strangers.

I know Avery has a rockstar of a dad, just like mine 😉

19 comments

  1. Michelle says:

    You’re very lucky Sarah ! My dad is quite the opposite and it’s very hurtful. I’m happy that you have such a good relationship with your dad .. I think it’s very important !

  2. twinswithtots says:

    Love it and I have one of those more difficult to deal with dads so I am always thrilled that my husband is the exact opposite way with my girls.
    With the way you talk about dave, sounds like Avery will be a lucky, loved girl. And that last photo of your dad is awesome

    • Sarah says:

      Thank you Catherine! There is a whole series of those guitar pictures lol It was hilarious. (Sadly, I missed it trying to find someone to unlock the bridal suite so I could use the restroom haha)

  3. Jen says:

    Remarkable post, Sarah. You have a truly unique bond with your father and that’s so incredible! To hear you say how Dave is the same in that respect makes me think how blessed Avery is to have two such special and amazing parents.

    • Sarah says:

      Jen–I definitely looked for those qualities in Dave, it didn’t take me long to realize what an awesome man, husband and father he would be! Thank you!

  4. Oye Akintan says:

    You are blessed to have a father like that. Even a husband that shares the same quality. I cant imagine Avery not writing such a wonderful and touching story about you and Dave someday.

  5. Carla @ All of Me Now says:

    All teary at the computer screen now. It’s beautiful to have such a wonderful relationship with your father. My grandfather, who raised me as his own, makes me feel the same way. Having children was so momentous because I knew how proud it would make him. To hear him tell me I’m raising kind, smart and sweet girls gets me every time. Your girl will be lucky to have an amazing dad and grandpa =) (and mama, of course!)

    • Sarah says:

      Aww, thank you! Ive always known my dad would be thrilled for me to have children, so his excitement comes as no surprise lol It’s great that your Grandfather made you feel the same way!!

  6. Beth @ TheAngelForever says:

    Such a beautiful post Sarah. My father was always working when I was growing up. Of course, when we went on vacations I have so many memories of time with him. As an adult I think we have grown closer since I have kids. The other day he was dropping comments to his boss about things that I have done and an event I am taking him to. He does not always get what I do now, but he is proud. Oh and I repinned since I love this :)

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