I didn’t watch the VMAs last night. In fact, In my 31 years of life, I don’t think I ever watched more than a few minutes of any awards show. I was busy doing what I normally do on a weekend; perusing Facebook with a sporting event on in the background.
My Facebook feed suddenly went from “Argh!! Stressed over my kids’ first day of school tomorrow!” to “OMG!! WHAT A SL*T! Miley is DISGUSTING TRASH!!”
WHAT?! What just happened? What did I miss?!
I didn’t find out what I missed until this morning. My curiosity got the better of me and I googled “Miley Cyrus VMAs”
What I saw was absolutely bizarre, totally weird, and definitely not my taste level (As you all know, I’m such a fancy pants!) But, at no time did I think “This girl is garbage! She’s a wh**e” I saw something that looked like it was coming from someones Ambien dream (or nightmare) It was nothing short of crazy. A girl in what I thought at the time was a “Chuck E Cheese” unitard and girls with massive back-sides carrying enormous teddy bear back packs?! What IS this?! I was grossed out by that “thing” she kept doing with her tongue, and I thought her platform sketchers were sooo ugly! But, nothing really upsetting or vile was moving across my ipad screen.
It just seemed like more of where young (20 something) performers are heading these days. Gaga (meat suit, lobster head, nuns habit, partial nudity…) Nicki Minaj (pretty much everything she’s ever worn/done) Katy Perry (Didn’t she have rocket boobs or something?) All these ladies have gone above and beyond, drawing attentions by being…well…weird. And often super sexual.
I saw so many posts saying “She ruined ‘Blurred Lines’ for me!!” Have any of these folks actually seen the video for “Blurred Lines?” Naked women, prancing around, grinding on Robin Thicke and Pharrell. Some animal involvement. Balloons spelling out “Robin Thicke Has a Big D**k” It’s pretty much a porno, but with a better background track. I like the song, it has a good beat (that makes me sound really ‘square’) but the lyrics?? I’m not sure even Miley Cyrus dancing naked could possibly be more NASTY than the lyrics! Here’s just a sample: “Let me be the one you back that ass to
Go, from Malibu, to Paris, boo
Yeah, I had a bitch, but she ain’t bad as you
So hit me up when you passing through
I’ll give you something big enough to tear your ass in two…..”
Lovely, right? I mean….totally wholesome, not gross, raunchy, or trashy at all. Or….
Why the backlash for Miley? Because she USED to be on the Disney Channel? OK, but she isn’t anymore. She’s 20. She’s trying to forge her own path. I’m hearing so many peple begging her to “be true” to herself. Maybe she is! Maybe, just maybe, she doesn’t need you, or you, or you, to tell her how to act, how to dance, how to dress. Maybe, she can do that on her own. And that’s ok, even if it isn’t how you would act/dress/dance. She’s just being Miley. 20 year old Miley. Today’s Miley.
And tomorrow, she may reinvent herself again. That’s what is so incredible about being young. You get to choose who you are, and what your path is. We all got to do that! Maybe I didn’t grind up on Robin Thicke, but I did go get a tattoo and dye my hair pink (and purple, and blue…) and I made plenty of other errors in judgement. I forged my own path. Eventually, I figured out what I wanted out of life and who I was. Now I’m a mom, with boring hair, and a tattoo I sort of regret (and one I absolute LOVE and don’t regret at all) We all make mistakes in our twenties. Most of us get to make our mistakes in private. We’re fortunate that all our mistakes aren’t caught on camera, and broadcast to millions of people around the world.
Before you, moms at home, start calling this twenty year old GIRL a sl*t and a wh*re, think about the fact that she is someone’s child. This could be YOUR child. And be glad that those photos of you, dancing on that pole in college, or participating in that wet t-shirt contest in Cancun, or whatever crazy 20 year old mistake you made, isn’t being aired on national television.